Part 1 Virginity

That has to be one of the most precious things in existence. It amazes me how people, both boys and girls, are so willing to give that up. I'm so proud of those people that wait for the most meaningful experience to lose it, to do it with someone they love. Still, as a virgin, there's a lot of limitations. I had an argument with a friend once: Just what DOES constitute virginity? If you gave your boyfriend head, does that mean you're no longer a virgin? I still stand by the whole belief that if you don't have intercourse (anal or vaginal), then you're still considered a virgin. Oral sex is just that. . .ORAL. I never used to have issues with oral sex until now (see part 6 on oral sex).

I don't remember what its like to be a virgin, to tell y'all the truth. It's been so long that I kinda miss being a virgin. Sex has been very disappointing for me, and part of me wishes I never took the fated leap into the world of the sexually active. But since I can't undo it, I'm making up for lost time by remaining celibate until I get married. SUPER CONSERVATIVE, yes, I know. And for someone like me with a raging sexual appetite, it's really something. It's like being a second-virgin. They say that after a year of no sex, you'd be considered a second-time virgin. I'm looking forward to that.

Part 2 Guys and Sex

It seems to me that guys all think they have the right way of doing it. Just because you've done it with some other woman and they thought you were blazin as all hell, doesn't mean that you're gonna set ME on fire too! Every woman is different, and until men realize that fact, they will forever fumble in the folds of vaginal sanctity. Women are just as much at fault for that happening, but men take it to a WHOLE other level, since their prowess is unparalleled, and their pride must remain intact to PROVE they can make a woman (sometimes they'll profess ANY woman) climax.

Save that line for someone that gives a crap.

I was recently talking with a friend that was just getting into the swing of things with his love interest, and even he admitted that he was completely clueless when it came to making a woman climax properly. Guys, realize that you have to be gentle with your strength. Certainly you are formidable figures, but with your woman, you have to be gentle creatures, with light caresses and tantalizing touches with both fingers, lips and tongue. Brute strength gets you nowhere.

Speaking of brute strength, ANY man that has to forcefully steal a woman's treasure is nothing but a despicable SOB that deserves to get his dick cut off. It's such a horrifying experience, as one of my friends went through an experience of rape, and I would NEVER wish that on anyone. That feeling of helplessness, where no one can help you against the strength of someone that's nearly twice your weight, it's horrible. And those men that do that to little girls! AHH, you deserve to shrivel up, rot and DIE! How DARE you traumatize poor innocent young girls, making them keep secrets to hide your shortcomings and faults?? It's men like those that give ALL men a bad name.

In a way, I feel sorry for guys. They have a lot of expectations of them when it comes to sex. You can't be too overpowering, have to keep your woman happy and attempt to make her climax, and then have to sit there and cuddle afterward? Slow torture, you're probably saying. Still, it can be fun. Don't look at foreplay and afterplay as some kind of dirty chore. You'll see what I mean in the next section.

Part 3 Like Every Day's A Honeymoon

Just so that you understand, I'm single. And I intend to stay that way for some time to come. Nonetheless, your sexual encounters can be just like a honeymoon with all of the essential elements that every honeymoon has. There's no need to have a drab bout of lovin. :-)

I'm naturally a voyeur and exhibitionist, but many people are not. Every relationship needs a little spice, and even if its a one-night stand (which I don't support, by the way), that can be very exciting. Let the natural artist in you arise and paint a picture of perfection with the man or woman of your dreams. I daydream about honeymoons all the time, and it's not because I want to be married, but the allure of the closeness of bodies at times like that is very powerful. It's binding, and truthfully is only good for those people that are looking for love out of something like that.

Well, if you aren't, I've got one thing to say:

Part 4 I'm a Player Basher

I can't STAND to hear about those guys (and girls, I know y'all are out there, don't even play like you aren't) that go around gettin their "play" on. What's up with that?? They're just looking for the quick hit and then they'll be on their merry way. No wonder there's so many troubled people out there today. Love seems to have no place in the "player's game", but every player's gotta have their day when someone will blow their spot. THEN and only then will they realize they've met their match. Perhaps it'll be enough to change their ways.

Now that THAT's out of the way, let's get down to technique:

Part 5 It's All About The Position

As far as I'm concerned, the missionary position (man on top, of course!) is a position to be saved for June Cleaver. Get real, there's so many damn things out there to try, why limit yourself? And especially if you're secure enough with your partner to try these things, WHY the hell not!! Variety is the spice, as I always say. SO. . .don't bother buying that 452 lovemaking positions for $1 on Times Square (yes, out-of-state people, they sell a little book with all those positions in the street). Save your dollar and try something different!

I'll tell you this, anatomically, the best position for a woman is the doggie-style, for simple fact that the pleasure centers in the vagina are toward the front area, the infamous G-spot. No it's not lost, its just that some men get so caught up in their own pleasure they forget about that little wonder of modern anatomy! Contrarily, the best position for men is anything placing pressure on the top of the penis. It's the most important spot as that's where the main blood vessel runs. The key to positions is knowing your anatomy. Trust me, it will work to your advantage, PLUS! you'll get to use some awesome pressure spots to make that tense moment explode into a thousand shards of orgasmic glass!

MY favorite spot, needless to say, is doggie-style. Whoever named this style should be shot, though. I HATE that name. It's so. .tactless. But there's more to lovemaking than just straight intercourse. There's the foreplay (which some guys neglect woefully, shame, SHAME!! i say. .), which I feel is the most important aspect of it all.

Have you ever been in this situation before: (scenario setup)
You're with your partner, about to get it on. You two start kissing, petting, that kind of thing, then one of you goes down to your knees and starts shedding clothes in the pubic area. You're thinking (guy - mind you, this is a heterosexual point of view, sorry my gay friends. .) she's gonna give me head. .COOL. . .

What do you do? Do you let her do it, no questions asked, OR are you the apprehensive type that says. .well, I'm not so sure about this. .let's see about oral sex, shall we?

Part 6 Going Downtown

I'll figure out whether this constitutes sex or not later. Right now, the more important thing is what to do when you're down there. Ladies, listen to me carefully. As someone that gets much pleasure in the act of oral sex, I can tell you:

1. the penis is NOT a chewing stick - no, no, don't CHEW dammit! it's the most sensitive organ on a man's body! it requires careful and close consideration, don't batter it.
2. teeth hurt, REALLY they do! - if you're going to use your teeth, the best way would be for a light brush of them over the skin. any more pressure than that will be painful.
3. "hold me gently", says the penis. . - i've seen (don't EVEN ask) some women handle it like they're changing gears in a standard vehicle. the best way to hold it is to have a light grip, using your fingertips for pressure, not your whole hand. if you really want to give some extra, but good pressure, wrap your whole hand around it with your thumb at the penis' underside. press gently (and i mean it) from the base of the penis to the tip. it feels wonderful, from what i hear.
4. "don't forget me!", says the scrotum. . .- ok, perhaps i'm being a little more sarcastic than normal here, but it's a fact. most women, when in the act of fellatio (I love that word, there's something commanding about it. ^_^), tend to forget about the balls. Those are probably the most sensitive things, but they require a LOT of sensitivity. Just a gentle massaging of them can be enough to evoke a groan or three from your partner. Groans are GOOD.

And for you gentlemen, don't think I've forgotten about you. This wasn't meant to be a "downtown" lesson, but hey, turnabout's fair play, right? Good ole cunnilingus (that name just rolls off the tongue, doesn't it?!):

1. Smell is everything - this is a tip for BOTH men and women. Cunnilingus is a dirty art, and in order to make sure that things smell correctly, here's some tips. First, never eat anything dairy up to 3 hours before you have any kind of sexual encounter. Dairy is horrible when doing such a thing. Eew. Next, to improve the vaginal scent (if it's not already wonderful smelling) is to eat anything citrus. Oranges, pineapple, kiwi, any kind of fruit will do. That citrus will be reflected in the acidic juices of the vagina. Each woman is different, as is her scent and smell, but in general, you should OBVIOUSLY be clean before doing such a thing (I'm peculiarly anal about being clean before performing any kind of oral sex).
2. teeth feel good, in moderation - unlike guys, teeth actually feel great with women. It's something you can use to get a grab of that clitoris (check your anatomy book so you know for sure where the thing is. SO many guys mistake the clitoris for something else, WHAT, I have no clue.), but do be gentle with it. grazes of the teeth are particularly sensitive over the labia, and that in combination with the fierce tongue can be an irresistible pleasure!
3. "play with me", says the clitoris. . .- still playing around, see? anyway, yes, the clitoris is the pleasure center for any women, SCREW the rest of it, if you can manipulate the clitoris the RIGHT way, you can make her come again, and again, and again. . .you get the idea. Any woman that has ever masturbated will know how she can get off, guaranteed. If you really want a show, get her to masturbate in front of you, watch her technique, and use it right back on her. Great lesson I'd say. .

Ok enough of that! Never meant for it to turn into a tutorial, but I've learned so much along the way that I feel I must say it!! As you can see, sex is a multifaceted thing, but it's something that should be taken seriously. It's always important to check your partner's history before engaging in anything intimate. These days, you never know what you might be getting yourself into. And always have yourself tested for AIDS and other STDs by your doctor, just to be on the safe side. On a lighter note, enjoy your partner, give them your complete and undivided attention when gettin your groove on, and you'll be in for some awesome "music making" sessions. Tis unfortunate however that I cannot bask in such glories. . .woe is me, WOE!! -_-

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